Everyday Mindfulness

by - January 08, 2016

You've most probably heard of mindfulness and it's likely you shelved it as one of those meditation, self help, self guide mumbo jumbo things that you just don't have time for in your life, another fad that you'll try and drop. Well, that's kind of what I thought a couple of years ago when research was booming about the usefulness and effectiveness of mindfulness... I just don't have time!

Now 2 years on life is slowing down, the children are at school, I'm not losing my mind over planning an event and my career is flourishing. Life is content and time is here. September and October brought a whirlwind of activity in our calendar and each year I find those 2 months all too consuming and a little stressful. On our wedding anniversary my husband bought me a book.

The little book of Mindfulness.

I haven't fully read it yet and it's sits on my chest of drawers and each morning and night I see it. It reminds me to be mindful, to be in the now. To not dwell in the past, to not concern myself with the future, to stay here in the now and to listen. Listen to my breathing,  listen to the whispers of my children, to feel the warmth of my husbands hand on my shoulder, to notice the softness of my daughter's curl, to feel the cold of the floor under my feet, to hear the birds singing in a busy street.

It's not easy and I certainly don't manage it all the time although I am more readily aware of my 'now' and I find it a good soothing way of thinking and being.  It's amazing how much more you notice. I find it very similar to the grounding technique used in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy {CBT}, it firmly anchors you in the present.

You can apply mindfulness to all aspects of life, food, fitness, housework, reading, breathing, walking, sitting in a room of friends & family, anything really. I've found it particularly healing and protective against the influences of others; it's helped me break a cycle of a toxic "friendship".

Mindfulness has had a positive impact on my life but it's not all about "being more positive". Urrgh I find the categorisation of life into positive OR negative weird and elementary. Mindfulness is processing experiences as they take place, it's the polaroid camera of life; developing what's there, now in that moment, no burst shot, no sd card, no retakes        it's    just   being.

mindfulness, focus, slow down, de-stress

So with January being the month of new year resolutions why no try adding being mindful to the list.
Pick it up,
drop it,
pick it up and drop it again
                                               because each time you practise mindfulness in any aspect of daily life you refine the skill, you focus more, slow down and it becomes intuitive.

If you're looking for a stepping stone to what is mindfulness I recommend you check out 
not only is their website simple, their twitter feed's a great prompt for mindful thinking they also point to key research in the field.

“If you just sit and observe, you will see how restless your mind is.
If you try to calm it, it only makes it worse, but over time it does calm, and when it does, there’s room to hear more subtle things — that’s when your intuition starts to blossom and you start to see things more clearly and be in the present more.
Your mind just slows down, and you see a tremendous expanse in the moment. You see so much more than you could see before.”                                    -STEVE JOBS

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